|May I just say that the boomer market is a flat line. i’d like to announce to the brilliant marketers trying to monetize Gen Boomer, that a generation who prides itself on youth, is not, doesn’t want to, and will not ingest niche media for the “boomer market”. They are reading mass media. I am consulting for a network of boomer sites. The twelve year-old media planners are not interested. I learned this yet again after driving to a late afternoon mid-town meeting at a high profile media agency. I paid a small ransom for the privilege of parking my car for an hour and returned home in less than sanguine mood.
Nosferatu wanted to treat me to an evening that would relieve my stress. I haven’t been deluged by offers, poems or other overtures, and Nosferatu is lonely – I accepted his offer. I wondered what he had in mind though I wasn’t exactly “dressing” for the date. Nos met me in my lobby and we cabbed it downtown to where I’d just been. Our destination, the top of the Empire State Building. You’d have to meet me to know how much I detest crowds, standing in cue, and pandering to touristic sensibilities. I’d rather have stuck hot pokers in my eye and have shaved my head. I plastered a tolerant smile on my face and trudged through the lines trying to dislodge Nosferatu’s guiding hand at my elbow and back. I gracelessly flew past the photographer who wanted to memorialize our experience and stepped into the gale force winds on the 86th floor.I’m not bragging but I have spectacular city and river views from my apartment. I didn’t need to slog through crowds, shuffle on high-heeled shod feet, and brave pneumonia for the privilege. Nos confessed that he’d hoped it would encourage me to cuddle with him. Am I seriously this cursed?
Finally we descended to terra firma and head for dinner. He had a place in mind and I was still determined to conduct myself with civility. After a 10 block walk in 30 degree weather I lost it. Apparently his dining choice was some deli with a salad bar, that he couldn’t locate.( he just moved to New York recently – single women rejoice.) Thankfully, I’m not a violent person and don’t carry an assault weapon. I ducked into the nearest subway and said that I was going home.
Nos followed me and witnessed my altercation with a nine-foot African American who shoved me several feet as I boarded the shuttle. A fury of expletives were unleashed, mine. Nos sat next to me and held me steady against the train’s halting rhythm. The thought of a morphine laced cappuccino was very appealing. I struggled with my inner bitch and politely suggested that we could “dine” at an all night diner. As we trudged another 7 blocks, in the cold, Nos told me that he wanted me to join him in his small business venture selling Disney pins on e-bay. We could travel to Florida two weeks a month and collect Disney pins from theme parks and sell them online. Now I have a garage in my building and would have cheerfully asphyxiated myself at that point, but the garage is too large and I would have only succeeded in enraging the attendants. That would have implied a higher holiday bonus, I suspect.
Luckily my nephew texted me and joined us. My blood pressure had regulated to merely dangerous levels and his presence soothed me. Nos is just looking for friendship, though he did suggest some physical distraction, to which I responded with gritted teeth. I calmed down enough to discuss Nosferatu’s failed marriages with empathy and compassion. I opened a space for friendship. The boundaries are set there.
Sometimes I want to throttle the God of my understanding and say “really?” Note to women: Don’t allow a man that you don’t know well, plan a date. Get the information. Buy into the plan or nix it. My idea of a stress relieving date is a helicopter ride over Manhattan; dinner at Le Vieux Bistro across from the Notre Dame Cathedral and a stroll through Ile St. Louis. Let’s kiss in the dawn on a deserted beach beneath a sky that looks like a jewelers display. I’ve done that and highly recommend this with the right person. Or, if I’m into you, come to my apartment, set about 20 candles aflame and let’s rearrange the 15 or so down pillows on my bed. That would have relieved my stress. So until you’re ready to enter my life, I’ll just be blogging and soothing my inner bitch with the thought of you.